Shopping for
Happiness on Bleak Friday
What
can we do to have a happy and meaningful life? Researchers say that happiness
is not something that can be acquired or achieved through material possessions.
Yet this year some 147 million Americans are rushing to find shopping bargains
on the day after thanksgiving, a day known as Black Friday. If the shopping
frenzy that is associated with this day is supposed to make us look forward to
the holiday season, the day would be more apply labeled Bleak Friday.
Americans
are bombarded with shopping possibilities. At the same time those of us who
research happiness know that people are no happier now than they were in the
past. Happiness has not increased since the 1950’s. Living standards have
increased, but happiness has not. Only about 45 % of the richest Americans say
that they are happy, whereas 33% of poorer Americans also say that they are
happy. More than two thousand years ago, Aristotle said that more than anything
else we seek happiness, either for its own sake or in other things we hope and
work for such as money, beauty, health, power. We hope these things will make
us happy. Once we get above the poverty level, however, material things do not
make us happy. In fact there is nothing like shopping on a Black Friday, with
the frenzy of showing, pushing, grabbing, to make one feel down and depressed.
Thanksgiving
is approaching. Traditionally it has one of the few days when shops were
closed. In the absence of commercial
activity, people visited with family, ate, drank, and told stories, watched
parades and sports on television, or read books. This tradition has now changed.
As the paragraph below indicates, even Thanksgiving is no longer a day to be
shared with family and friends. The sacred god of shopping has descended on the
4th Thursday in November bringing with it incredible sales that
evidently cannot be passed up.
NEW YORK — Target Corp. will open
its doors at 9 p.m. on Thanksgiving, three hours earlier than a year ago, to
kick off the holiday shopping season. The discounter joins several other major
retailers, including WalMart Stores Inc., that are opening earlier in the
evening on the holiday and staggering deals over the two-day period. Over the
years, stores have been expanding their hours on Black Friday to get ahead of
the competition, but the kickoff is increasingly happening right after shoppers
finish their turkey feast.
Shopping
can be fun; it can provide a brief uplifting feeling, a touch of excitement. But
are we really giving up one of the few days a year when we can spend time with
family, something that has been proven to actually make us happier and
healthier, in order to shop. What are we shopping for? Is it for the people we
leave at home on Thanksgiving in order to go and buy things to give them on
Christmas, or Hanukkah, or Kwanza? Will
this shopping frenzy fulfill something that is missing from our life?
What
does make us happy? Researchers agree that our genes help, our families and
friends help, a sense of spirituality helps, goals help, what else? Psychologist Carol Ryff has
proposed six key components of well-being
and happiness. These include positive self-regard or self-acceptance, satisfying
relationships, a sense of direction and purpose in life, feeling that one is
using one’s potential and abilities, that our lives have a purpose; having choices
in shaping life; and a sense of awareness that we can manage the stresses and demands
of life. Happy people also choose to see the world and themselves in
positive and affirming ways. They surround themselves with happy people. Those
people are not to be found in WalMart on Black Friday or Black Thursday.
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